Dear Ivy, <\/p>\n
What is the best way to spice up a relationship that has gone stale? Not only sexually, but in every other aspect of the relationship?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Sorry to break it to you, but I don\u2019t believe relationships should go stale. Of course, it\u2019s not always going to be fireworks and waterfalls, but if you\u2019re both trying to resuscitate a flame, it\u2019s most probably already dead. That\u2019s not to say relationships don\u2019t have their ups and downs, especially with a potent dose of routine, but when things stop coming naturally to the both of you, I wouldn\u2019t force it anymore. That\u2019s why I highly recommend people really get to know each other before taking any big leaps.<\/p>\n
But if you\u2019re both absolutely adamant on making things work (or married), then change things up. If after-work Monday afternoons translate into TV dinners then no wonder you\u2019re bored out of your minds. It\u2019s time for a lifestyle change, get a new dramatic haircut, and make him hit the gym, go out to a karaoke bar and keep the neighborhood up all night. Seeing each other in different settings can work wonders.<\/p>\n
If all else fails, take some time apart. Stop forcing it. Think Johnny Depp\/Vanessa Paradis – even the tightest of couples grow apart.<\/p>\n
Dear Ivy,<\/p>\n
What’s the best thing to do when you’re in a new relationship but you are still not over your last one? Should you end the new one to save the other person from eventual pain and take some time alone to move on, or stay in the new relationship and move on while taking the risk of potentially hurting your new partner?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Breakups are tough. That\u2019s why getting over them on someone else\u2019s arm is easier. Good for you. Unless your new guy is totally clueless, he’s probably already picked up that you\u2019re not in it 100 percent. He made the decision to stick around. And as long as you\u2019re not declaring your undying love to him already, you have nothing to worry about. It seems you\u2019re new guy wants to keep you around and is willing to take the time to show you why you\u2019re better off with him.<\/p>\n
Let it be, no one can truly predict how a relationship will unfold, so why stop it now if you\u2019re having a good time? Would you not take a shiny new car out for a ride because you might potentially get into a crash? I think not. Some people will never fully get over their exes; does that mean they\u2019ll never date again? <\/p>\n