{"id":20029,"date":"2012-11-28T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2012-11-28T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/20029\/how-to-pick-up-a-guy-at-a-bar"},"modified":"2012-11-28T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2012-11-28T00:00:00","slug":"how-to-pick-up-a-guy-at-a-bar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/en\/20029\/how-to-pick-up-a-guy-at-a-bar\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Pick Up a Guy at a Bar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Ivy,
I only seem to be attracting men that I’m not into. How do I attract the guys that catch my eye, other than just “being myself”?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t stare. Don\u2019t stalk. You want him to know you\u2019re there without thinking you\u2019re an easy catch, so you really gotta play your cards right on this one. Once you set your sights on the guy you want to pursue, make sure you present him with a challenge while dropping subtle hints. The art of attraction is based on a very delicate balance between coming off as approachable yet unattainable.<\/p>\n

The next time he\u2019s in your radius try cracking a wise joke, there\u2019s nothing men love more than a laid-back girl with a sense of humor. This might sound oh-so-cliche’ but be super confident without coming off as arrogant either. Make some eye contact and smile occasionally.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a favorite tip of mine: If you\u2019re at a bar have the waiter send him over your favorite super girly drink and watch his reaction. If he decides to play along, you know you\u2019re on to something, if he gets weirded out by the gesture then you want nothing to do with him.<\/p>\n

Dear Ivy,
I’m really into this guy I’m dating, and he wants to take it to the next level, physically, but I’m just not ready. He’s really understanding about it, but I’d like to compensate with something. What are some things I can do to make his waiting easier on him?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n

It depends on why you\u2019re not ready for sexual intimacy, are you not entirely sure about your feelings for him or is it just too soon for some hanky panky? Every couple experiences its own natural progression of intimacy and it usually comes naturally. It doesn\u2019t sound like he\u2019s rushing, so that\u2019s a good sign.<\/p>\n

If you like him but don\u2019t wanna come off as too easy too soon in the relationship, that\u2019s a wise choice, and it\u2019s precisely what we\u2019ve got bases for.<\/p>\n

You can start things off by allowing him some heavy petting from your waist up. When you\u2019re comfortable with that and feel like he\u2019s explored that area enough, then perhaps you can invite him to move down south. There are many ways for you both to enjoy some sexual stimulation without necessarily engaging in full-blown sex. And whatever activities you choose will just really depend on what you\u2019re into. Don’t worry, when you\u2019re ready – things will just happen naturally. Enjoy!<\/p>\n

Want more from Ivy? Check out her blog<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Have a question you’d like to know the answer to? Email her at tell.ivy@gmail.com.<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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