Dear Ivy,<\/p>\n
Why does my ex-boyfriend still talk to me if he doesn’t want to date me? He’s broken up with me twice already yet still talks to me a couple times a week. Should I move on? Should I not?<\/p>\n
-Confused and Single<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Dear Confused and Single,<\/p>\n
He\u2019s doing the most natural thing men do\u2014being possessive. You know why? Because he can. You are letting this happen. The solution is simple. Cut him out. That\u2019s not to say you can\u2019t be friends with your ex, but you need time to close up the previous chapter between the both of you can start a new one. And guess what? Him still being in the picture ensures you never get over him and hinders you from moving on. If he won\u2019t have you, it seems no one will. Move on, if he sees how adamant you are this can go two ways, he may not be able to handle your absence and beg you to take him back or he may just stop calling.<\/p>\n
Dear Ivy,<\/p>\n
Call me old-fashioned, but I want to stay a virgin until I’m married. Now that I’m getting older, I feel like this might get in the way of dating. What if I’m interested in someone and he doesn’t want to wait? Or should I just not be interested in him to begin with?<\/p>\n
-Not That Prude<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Dear Not That Prude,<\/p>\n
So let\u2019s say you are dating someone that doesn\u2019t want to wait. That\u2019s his problem, not yours\u2014unless you fall madly in love with him and your virginity just becomes a detail.<\/p>\n
The important thing is you are free to do with your body what you please. So never succumb to having sex with someone simply for the fear of losing them or because you got pressured into it. Of course all men would rather have sex then abstain and you\u2019re probably going to be surprising a few along the way but here\u2019s the thing, if a guy is truly into you then he\u2019ll be willing to do accept your terms no matter what. Better yet, if he\u2019s really the one then he\u2019ll appreciate you saving yourself for him until your big day.<\/p>\n