Dear Ivy,<\/p>\n
I’m a 30-year-old male who’s supposed to be getting married to the love of my life in October. We’ve never had any huge problems in our relationship, but this past weekend has been unnerving. She spent the better part of Friday evening texting “someone,” and then when we went to bed asked me if I wanted one last fling with someone else… or if there was someone from my past that I felt I had unfinished business with. Basically, she implied she wanted one last fling before we get married and in all honesty, I don’t want anything like that. Really not sure what to do. Please help!<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Cold feet. It happens to the best of couples. The fact that she\u2019s not suppressing those feelings probably means she\u2019s unable to make them go away. Your fianc\u00e9 is crying out for help. It seems she doesn\u2019t wanna hurt you by telling you she\u2019s having mixed feelings about getting married right up front, so her strategy is to voice those concerns in a cool, indifferent way – hoping that you might feel the same way so perhaps then she could let you know she\u2019s freaking out.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t believe in the last fling thing. Let me tell you why: Marriage is supposed to last forever, it\u2019s supposed to be a mutual decision, and if your partner is feeling like she still needs to go out there and have a little taste, it means she doesn\u2019t seem to have found her main dish just yet. Sorry to break it to you. But look at the bright side, it\u2019s much better than getting stood up at the altar. Now pull yourself together and call the whole thing off.<\/p>\n
Dear Ivy,<\/p>\n
I’ve been dating a guy for about 4 months now. He’s 27, I’m 25. He’s pretty much broke all the time, but that’s because he’s self-sufficient, lives on his own and pays all the bills, and has a low-salary job. It doesn’t bother me, but everyone in my family is constantly putting him down and calling him “cheap.” Advice?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Yes, ignore you family. At least he\u2019s not a bum. How many guys do you know in their 20\u2019s nowadays that have actually moved out of mommy and daddy\u2019s house? Not many I bet, and that\u2019s besides the fact that Lebanon pays peanuts for very good talent.<\/p>\n
Let me ask you this: Are you self-sufficient? And if you are, would your disposable income allow you to spend on some guy. Probably not. Don\u2019t get lured into this local mentality. I bet if he had a super rich daddy and didn\u2019t work a day in his life, your family would encourage you to marry this guy. He\u2019s not cheap, your family is shallow. Sorry to break it to you. <\/p>\n