{"id":23808,"date":"2013-04-17T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-04-17T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/23808\/dear-ivy-why-wont-my-fiance-help-clean-up"},"modified":"2013-04-17T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2013-04-17T00:00:00","slug":"dear-ivy-why-wont-my-fiance-help-clean-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/en\/23808\/dear-ivy-why-wont-my-fiance-help-clean-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Ivy: Why Won’t My Fiance Help Clean Up?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Ivy,
I\u2019ve lived with my fianc\u00e9 for about two years now and we\u2019re planning to get married next year. We get along great most of the time, however cleaning has always been a big source of arguments for us and now it’s just getting ridiculous. I\u2019m not by any means a neat freak. I don\u2019t demand constant cleaning, or even every day \u2013 just once a week \u2013 because we\u2019re both very busy with our jobs and enjoy our personal hobbies. So, about once a week we try to spend what usually ends up being an average of two hours cleaning together. But this process usually turns into an argument because he half-ass cleans something or goes painfully slow or gets ‘distracted’ and starts playing with whatever he finds while he’s supposed to be cleaning. I feel like his mom because I constantly have to remind him to do his share! Will he ever change?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n

Wait until his mother finds out what you\u2019ve been putting him up to. No – but seriously, make sure she never knows. Let me tell you a little bit about our pampered men. No matter how many errands there are at home, such menial tasks are not for a man.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s right, I know grown men who still live with their families and would never be caught dead doing their beds or washing their dishes. And they\u2019re not to blame; their mamas wouldn\u2019t have it any other way. So if you\u2019re expecting him to suddenly accept this new activity you\u2019ve signed him up for just like that then you\u2019re wrong. <\/p>\n

Just like you described it, it\u2019s going to be a very painful and slow process. When all else fails and it probably will, hire a cleaning company<\/p>\n

Dear Ivy,
We\u2019ve been going out for a little over a year. Last week I overheard my girlfriend talking to her friend on the phone about how she didn’t like our photos together and was embarrassed because of the height difference. I am 5\u20199 and she is 6\u20192. It really hurt to hear that somebody that you love is ashamed to be seen with you. How do I get over what she said? Or should I even get over it? Should I just move on?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n

Oh don\u2019t be such a drama queen, she is not ashamed of being with you, she\u2019s just expressing her inner deepest insecurity to her friend on the phone. You should not have been eavesdropping. Let me tell you, tall girls don\u2019t have it easy. Especially when people here always make such a big deal about a girl being lengthier than the average height.<\/p>\n

Your girl will just have to adjust to the difference by finding the right pose and angle that flatters the both of you in photos. My advice to you is to avoid pictures where you are both standing side by side and she\u2019ll probably have to cut down on the heels.
Some of the hottest men in the world end up with much taller supermodels. <\/p>\n

You should both be flattered. Full stop.<\/p>\n

Want more from Ivy? Check out her blog<\/a> and her Facebook page<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Have a question you’d like to know the answer to? Email her at tell.ivy@gmail.com.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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