{"id":38975,"date":"2015-02-23T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-02-23T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/38975\/in-my-own-words-what-its-like-to-be-bisexual-in-beirut"},"modified":"2015-02-23T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2015-02-23T00:00:00","slug":"in-my-own-words-what-its-like-to-be-bisexual-in-beirut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/en\/38975\/in-my-own-words-what-its-like-to-be-bisexual-in-beirut\/","title":{"rendered":"In My Own Words: What It&#8217;s Like to Be Bisexual in Beirut"},"content":{"rendered":"So it may just be my \u201cwoe is me\u201d self-deprecating mentality, but being bisexual is challenging. Some people think that bisexuals have all the fun: so many more options, so much more freedom, blah blah. But, it\u2019s actually f*cking difficult.<br \/>  <br \/>  Let me try to explain.<br \/>  <br \/>  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/33.media.tumblr.com\/ad1fb2949a1e79718a30ceefd6f574e2\/tumblr_njyhtzFACf1tnwpamo1_500.gif\"width=\"100%\"><br \/>  (Image via <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tumblr.com\/search\/boys-girls\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\">tumblr.com<\/a>)<br \/>  <br \/>  I\u2019m a male who has dated a few women and a few men. But I&#8217;d estimate that 80 percent of the time when I tell people I\u2019m bisexual, they smile knowingly and mentally say to themselves, \u201cso you\u2019re gay and in denial.&#8221; Sometimes they even say it verbally.<br \/>  <br \/>  What often ends up happening is that women relegate me to the role of the one-dimensional, stereotypical gay best friend. No, darling. For one, I hate shopping. Also, I will lie to your face and tell you every outfit looks amazing just to hurry up the process. These women who assume I&#8217;m gay also erroneously believe I am interested in their male or boyfriend-related drama, and that I\u2019m fine with being their safe pseudo-boyfriend. We end up sitting in cinemas or bars and they feel safe and comfortable around me, as they should. But I have to admit, most of the time all I\u2019m thinking about is how I met get her to f*ck me later. <br \/>  <br \/>  So I lose most women when they find out I\u2019m bisexual and gain the whole of the gay male community, which also tends to be skeptical and\/or disgusted by my interest in women. <br \/>  <br \/>  The result is that I end up having sex with a lot more men than women, which makes me question my own bisexuality. It&#8217;s also frustrating because there are so many women that I just really want the opportunity to have sex with &#8211; which I guess is normal for most men, except gay ones.<br \/>  <br \/>  I guess being in Beirut may sort of complicate all of these things a bit more, what with the LGBT (and whatever other letters have been added to the acronym as of late) community forced somewhat into hiding. Maybe if I lived in New York City or some other liberally-minded metropolitan city, things would be easier.<br \/>  <br \/>  But anyway, without digressing too much, I often run into these ultra-heteronormative gay guys either at Bardo (or on Grindr) who use phrases like, \u201cstraight acting\u201d and \u201cno femme.\u201d What&#8217;s up with that? You can&#8217;t pretend you aren&#8217;t queer and then go exchange D juice with another man. It doesn&#8217;t work like that. <br \/>  <br \/>  In the end, I usually just stay home or get wasted with a bunch of friends. Sometimes, it&#8217;s easier to pretend around new people I\u2019m either just gay or just straight.  It&#8217;s easier than dealing with the folks who assume that I&#8217;m a poor, socially-repressed homosexual in hiding or whatever other judgments they want to label me with.  It would probably be easier to buy a t-shirt that says, \u201cI\u2019m bisexual, deal with it,\u201d or something like that.<br \/>  <br \/>  I really don\u2019t know, but I do know that I would like to have more sex, which in the end just means I\u2019m a human like everyone else.<br \/>  <br \/>  <br \/>      <figure class=\"wp-block-gallery has-nested-images columns-default is-cropped wp-block-gallery-1 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"250\" height=\"166\" data-id=\"418647\" src=\"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/38975-250x166.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-418647\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/38975-250x166.png 250w, https:\/\/www.beirut.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/38975.png 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/figure><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\" ><img 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