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<\/p>\nWe had a great time, but the chemistry just wasn\u2019t there. and all I was left with, were the words: \u201cbut you\u2019re seriously the coolest girl I\u2019ve ever met.\u201d<\/p>\n
Get in line, dude. I\u2019ve heard that one a million, gazillion times. I\u2019m easy to get along with, I love a spontaneous pickup game of disc golf, kickball, softball, soccer, you name it. I avoid pointless fights like the plague. I love to drink beer and eat pizza. I never talk about marriage or big picture commitment. I never complain about looking fat. Actually, I look pretty damn good in just about everything I wear.<\/p>\n
In sum: I am the coolest girl you\u2019ve ever met.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m also still single, childless and nearly 33-years-old. <\/p>\n
I\u2019m not complaining, necessarily. <\/p>\n
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I don\u2019t exactly want kids anytime soon, and I\u2019m not on the active hunt for the love of my life. But after this most recent breakup, I\u2019m finding myself fed up with being the cool girl. The cool girl doesn\u2019t get me any closer to the future life I sometimes think about leading.<\/p>\n
I spent years of my early life to get to this point: perfectly molded for male pleasure: easy going, hyper-sexual, intellectual, great taste in music, a sense of personal style that screams \u201cunique,\u201d and not one bit clingy. You want a back massage? Awesome. Your idea of the perfect morning is breakfast in bed and then an intimate, deep-throat BJ? Perfect. I\u2019m totally down. <\/p>\n
I am a smart, sexy, capable, career-driven, independent and successful woman. And yet, I\u2019m still not capable of pinning down a long-term relationship with a guy that\u2019s as serious about it as I am. If anything, I\u2019m often told I\u2019m the \u201clucky one\u201d who\u2019s been chosen to go out with guy x, y and z dude. And in the end, it always ends in almost the exact same way. They\u2019re the ones who \u201care just in a transitory, difficult spot in their lives right now.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s not you,\u201d they often say. \u201cIt\u2019s me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou’re so perfect. You’re so fun. You’re so sexy. But I\u2019m just not ready to settle down yet.\u201d<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not dating teenage boys, mind you. These are my peers: a plethora of thirty-something men who will absolutely back up the fact that I am the coolest girl they\u2019ve ever met\u2026 but that doesn\u2019t mean they want a serious relationship.<\/p>\n
So that\u2019s why i\u2019m sick of being THAT girl. Being the \u201ccool girl\u201d may get you a lot of fun partners in crime and great stories to tell another time. But in no way does that translate into a future of long-term commitment.<\/big> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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